tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post555955145652931188..comments2009-10-25T04:58:14.677+10:00Comments on Fat Heffalump: Dealing with DouchebagsSleepydumplinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13301673308868272260noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-52080567672956149382009-10-08T01:33:59.755+10:002009-10-08T01:33:59.755+10:00Ugh, A&%EHOLES in this town, I swear! I want t...Ugh, A&%EHOLES in this town, I swear! I want to move back to my old town at times. I had just gotten home today, was checking my mail, was on the phone to my landlord at the same time and this carload of guys came around the corner and for some reason decided to start yelling out No Fat Chicks. I gave no indication that I'd heard them. What a bunch of tossers. I'd recognise the car again, so next time I might just get the license plate and pass it on to a few relevant people heheheheheAmberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10419841537286581232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-39814342961154904662009-10-02T08:45:54.985+10:002009-10-02T08:45:54.985+10:00Ramble away love! Kudos to you for your boldness,...Ramble away love! Kudos to you for your boldness, I wish we didn't have to find that bravery to deal with douchebags. And douchebags by proxy - those that don't make the statements, but laugh along when others do.Sleepydumplinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13301673308868272260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-85051899446356057322009-10-01T20:09:29.382+10:002009-10-01T20:09:29.382+10:00Some years ago, I was out for my birthday, in the ...Some years ago, I was out for my birthday, in the pub with just a few friends. A somewhat drunken guy pointed at me and yelled some fat bird insult.<br />I don't know what possessed me, maybe because it was my birthday, but I stood up and confronted him. I asked him to repeat himself and despite the fact I stand barely over 5 feet tall he backed off and immediately apologised. In fact he apologised profusely and wouldn't leave me alone.<br />I clearly remember saying "listen, you just pointed out I'm fat, do you have any idea how much weight I have to put behind a punch?" At which point my friend Kim tapped him on the shoulder and said "she's really going to hurt you if you don't leave". He left, but not before his mates apologised for his behaviour and promised to keep him away from me.<br />It weirdly made my birthday. I could stand up to these idiots and my friends backed me up too. <br />When I look back at it, I smile, I don't feel sad about being insulted, but proud of myself for not taking it.<br /><br />However, if you're fat some people seem to see you as an acceptable target. That everyone else will laugh.<br /><br />I go to a lot of auctions, and like everyone else there was sitting on a piece of furniture waiting to be auctioned. When they got to the sofa I was sitting on, the auctioneer called the lot number along with the words "well it's clearly a very strong sofa". Everyone turned to look, maybe a hundred people and I was mortified. At that moment, there was no way to retaliate, but no one laughed. His 'joke' fell utterly flat which was the only good thing. Bloody asshole.<br /><br />Sorry for the long ramble! :)Flibbertigibbethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17948101105232980465noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-77833533577415513792009-10-01T01:11:33.400+10:002009-10-01T01:11:33.400+10:00Amen sister....been suffering with this for years ...Amen sister....been suffering with this for years - it hurts and is mortifyingly embarassing, especially when you're out with friends. I usually try to charm people with my personality so that they will like me despite my fatness (and baldness...sigh!). But, I'm getting tired. Especially when you see all these skinny broads just walk into a room and it's like they feel at home instantly. I would love to feel that way...just one time. We all have to learn to keep our heads up and be proud of who we are - but, I have to admit to losing control and yelling insults back at people from time to time. Stay strong ladies! We are worthy.lahortonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08683565951332852031noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-45706357421602333022009-09-25T14:06:34.090+10:002009-09-25T14:06:34.090+10:00servalkitty it is EXACTLY the same as being ridicu...servalkitty it is EXACTLY the same as being ridiculed when you're fat. It doesn't matter what the reason behind the douchebaggery is, it's all douchebaggery. Anyone who feels the need to be cruel to others because of their appearance is a douchebag.Sleepydumplinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13301673308868272260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-30748420461798942462009-09-25T12:15:20.344+10:002009-09-25T12:15:20.344+10:00*grins* No wonder the guys at the park keep their ...*grins* No wonder the guys at the park keep their mouth shut when I'm there doing Amtgard! XD I'm carrying a stick! *snickers* <br /><br />But it's very true that they're cowards, I remember in high school I was headed to class after lunch and I over heard some guys say "Oh my god she has a beard!" I was devastated. I know that's not the same as being made fun of for being fat, but I had heard these guys making fun of me before so it really hurt. And some of them tend to not say it to your face, a guy in my drama group in Tennessee made fun of my fat in the makeup room while I was busy elsewhere. Unfortunately for him my friend Kelli was in the room and nearly walloped him with one of the wooden props. <br /><br />And whats worse then people you care about not believing you is when they encourage others name calling and douchebaggery. My sisters did this a lot when I was younger.servalkittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03842506767758211867noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-14166041897335630372009-09-23T14:20:06.077+10:002009-09-23T14:20:06.077+10:00*waves bye-bye*
See ya.
My blog, my use of the w...*waves bye-bye*<br /><br />See ya.<br /><br />My blog, my use of the word, my meaning. I owe no apology for anyone for a word that has NOTHING to do with what you're implying.<br /><br />Don't let the door hit your arse on the way out.Sleepydumplinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13301673308868272260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-6759206642602347602009-09-23T13:09:39.082+10:002009-09-23T13:09:39.082+10:00"Retard" has two meanings:
1) A dispara..."Retard" has two meanings:<br /><br />1) A disparaging word for a a mentally retarded person.<br /><br />2) A person who is stupid, obtuse, or ineffective in some way.<br /><br />In the case of "fucktard," I think number 2 applies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-87908134800095626162009-09-23T12:56:54.365+10:002009-09-23T12:56:54.365+10:00I'll be buggering off from your blog. Fucktard...I'll be buggering off from your blog. Fucktard comes from combining retard and fuck. How can you not see this?<br /><br />You had a moment where you could have done the right thing, apologised, and moved on. You didn't. That's sad.<br /><br />Good bye.Eli Reedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02825666652878325225noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-23131820620596170282009-09-23T12:02:06.217+10:002009-09-23T12:02:06.217+10:00Kath. . . Girl, you are beautiful inside and out! ...Kath. . . Girl, you are beautiful inside and out! Screw the @ssmonkeys and be the you we all love!!Poohgal79https://www.blogger.com/profile/17440209867564958826noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-10283094664611715192009-09-23T11:07:55.960+10:002009-09-23T11:07:55.960+10:00sarrabellum - a) I would appreciate if you keep th...sarrabellum - a) I would appreciate if you keep the lecturing to yourself. If you don't like it, bugger off and don't read my blog.<br /><br />b) the word "fucktard" has got nothing to do with the word "retard". It's simply a delightfully descriptive swearword for arsehole douchebags who behave like pigs.<br /><br />And I stand by their fucktardery!Sleepydumplinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13301673308868272260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-53200053269528108702009-09-23T11:05:40.779+10:002009-09-23T11:05:40.779+10:00Thank you all for your comments, it breaks my hear...Thank you all for your comments, it breaks my heart that we even have to discuss this and talk about ways to deal with it. It's just straight up WRONG and shouldn't be permissable in our society. But then douchebags often tend to be racist, sexist, homophobic etc as well as fat phobic, so we're not the only ones who cop it.<br /><br />Paulina - do you notice the common thread - they're picking on people who can't fight back. One guy wouldn't pick on you on his own with your hubby, but a gang of 'em, where you guys have no defence... yep, gutless wonders they are. Douchebags never pick on someone their own size (no pun intended) - they always pick on smaller groups, women, younger people, old people, people on their own...<br /><br />Magickloelai - yes, I have encountered this one before. People who call themselves our loved ones who simply don't believe us. They negate the abuse we cop from douchebags, they suggest we are imagining it or are too sensitive. They need to experience it.<br /><br />Thank you all for your sympathy, I appreciate it, but honestly I'm not here for a "poor me" experience. I share these experiences so others can know they are a) not alone and b) what it's like for a fatty. And that even when you are feeling strong and confident, that it still hurts.<br /><br />I don't know the answer to this problem but if we talk about it, maybe we will FIND the answer.<br /><br />Hugs to you all.Sleepydumplinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13301673308868272260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-78947935524685874112009-09-23T10:59:42.468+10:002009-09-23T10:59:42.468+10:00You want to call out hate-speech-slinging doucheba...You want to call out hate-speech-slinging douchebags by...using hate speech? <br /><br />Listen, "fucktard" is not okay. "Retard/ed", and any of its derivatives, is not okay. "Retard/ed" does not mean stupid, or fucked up, or nasty. These words have specific meanings. Misusing "retard/ed" and using derivatives based on that misuse is inaccurate, derogatory, ugly, and dehumanizing to people with intellectual disabilities. You lose the higher groud when you make these language choices. You don't have to tear down an entire population to make your point about being torn down by someone else. Be a better person than that.<br /><br />http://www.r-word.org/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-48328411012137815312009-09-23T04:37:34.241+10:002009-09-23T04:37:34.241+10:00Even better than the people who shout at you on th...Even better than the people who shout at you on the street(there's at least a chance of being able to write off strangers), are the people around you, who supposedly care about you, who don't believe you when you report this douchebaggery. They don't think it's possible for anyone who recieve that kind of treatment, because they don't get it themselves. <br /><br />It gets assumed that we're lying, or just "too sensitive". It's assumed that we didn't REALLY hear that guy shout out his window at us, we just thought he did. And it hurts, because people you want to console you, end up calling you a liar. <br /><br />It's hard to cope, but it's possible- just reminding yourself that the character of someone who has to insult you is not one you have to care about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-49452499619683738452009-09-23T04:09:19.678+10:002009-09-23T04:09:19.678+10:00Jeez, they're ruthless! I'm so sorry you h...Jeez, they're ruthless! I'm so sorry you had to endure such vile hatred. I've had passing comments, but never anything that severe. May the phones of those kids who took pictures fall and break into a billion little pieces, the rotten jerks. <br />I've never had enough of a backbone to yell back, but I sure wish I did. A hearty "FUCK YOU" is in order for all those situations. *hug*sweetnfathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17283348984884184305noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-8702116020188789722009-09-23T02:04:39.157+10:002009-09-23T02:04:39.157+10:00I saw your MySpace pics and if it makes you feel a...I saw your MySpace pics and if it makes you feel any better, I think you look very lovely and have a wonderful smile!<br /><br />:)Salty Rainbowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04105433802155094466noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-89062585079646530732009-09-23T00:53:01.924+10:002009-09-23T00:53:01.924+10:00Sleepy,
People like that need to (at LEAST) get s...Sleepy,<br /><br />People like that need to (at LEAST) get sentenced to wear a "fat suit" for a week straight so they can suffer the indignation that they spew upon others.<br /><br />I don't get much stuff like that. Maybe it's because I don't go out that much, or have a tendency to go to places where there are more people like me. My good friends (and there are precious few of them) are just as likely as I am to pound the wholy fuck out of insignificant creatins as they are. That and my full sized beat up red GMC Sierra truck that shows I don't have a problem with running them over. Heh.<br /><br />I have gotten a comment at a craft show... But it was just WAY too funny. My sister and I laugh about that just by the MENTION of it.<br /><br />I do tend to get treated differently when I date. From the "you're a BBW and you have to put out to get out" to the "Oh, I can't have a relationship with you YOU'RE MY BEST FRIEND! I CAN TELL YOU ANYTHING!" Both statements make me see red and want to hurt someone badly. Hey! There's another reason I don't own a gun! Tee hee!<br /><br />Anyway, don't let the bastards get you down. They only say shit like that because deep down inside... they envy you. You have the self esteem they don't. Fuck them. Up the ass. With a broken broomstick. Using crunchy peanut butter as lube.<br /><br />Next! tee hee.<br /><br />NorBlackWidowNorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11120000239377908762noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-10788877979104147362009-09-23T00:34:23.248+10:002009-09-23T00:34:23.248+10:00I haven't had that degree of douchebaggery in ...I haven't had that degree of douchebaggery in a long time, but I used to encounter it regularly when I was fatter than what I am now. I'm sorry that the scourge of humankind has happened upon you so many times and I wish I could give you the perfect witty comeback for any situation, but I can't. Sometimes it just isn't safe to talk back to harrassers, especially if you're alone and they outnumber you in size and/or strength. I would suggest Joy Nash's Staircase Wit video (on YouTube) for some clever comebacks, but "Fuck you, asshole" generally works, too.Rachelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01460519337017413765noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-48440463629858827112009-09-22T23:00:46.350+10:002009-09-22T23:00:46.350+10:00Yep. Fucking scumbags.
I've been abused out ...Yep. Fucking scumbags. <br /><br />I've been abused out of car windows, mocked when I've been riding a bike (because the last thing these pricks want is for fat people to actually get some power), more times than I care to remember. <br /><br />Good on your boss for taking those bastards down a peg or two. I hope they learned, if not respect, at least fear.David Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01594699576390357505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-42024629046678507462009-09-22T22:45:47.293+10:002009-09-22T22:45:47.293+10:00Kath - I read this and then re-read it because I a...Kath - I read this and then re-read it because I am speechless at the cruelty that you and other fatties (and I use this term as you intend it with no disrespect intended) have endured and still do. I can only say you are my friend and I will stand up for you and take on any deadshit prick that looks sideways at you when i am in your company and some douchebag vouches for his douchebaggery by opening his mouthAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08472084830494942535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-47219327118410984932009-09-22T22:35:24.690+10:002009-09-22T22:35:24.690+10:00I feel so sorry for you... :( I know all this too ...I feel so sorry for you... :( I know all this too well myself, complete with the mobile phone pictures.<br /><br />Sadly, male company does not protect one from being harassed. I was mocked and my pictures were taken as I went for a walk with my husband. In fact, that was one thing that contributed to the sick interest the douchebags took in us, as my husband is very skinny. They were endlessly amused by the way we looked together. My husband tried standing up to them, but it was no use - they wouldn't stop. And they were four and drunk - he was alone and we didn't want to engage in a bigger fight. <br />But it broke my heart. <br />My husband already had some "friends" abandon him because he paired up with a fatty... and he has to suffer ridicule in the streets because of me - that's one thing that really hurts, I don't want him to suffer that.Paulinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16774727616339544168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-48688775564314734072009-09-22T22:10:53.757+10:002009-09-22T22:10:53.757+10:00Well, my friend you have bought tears to my eyes a...Well, my friend you have bought tears to my eyes and really have to say but I often feel sorry for these people that they have so little in their own lives they feel the need to taunt, ridicule and embarass those who are supposedly different.<br /><br />Bless your cotton socks, friend.BruganCampbellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18206850511838010912noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32039290065553151.post-35750080249802382332009-09-22T21:19:29.399+10:002009-09-22T21:19:29.399+10:00Kath, I can't even begin to imagine your hurts...Kath, I can't even begin to imagine your hurts and pains. You are a brave and beautiful soul and don't you ever forget that. Hugs to you my beautiful friend.xoxoxoBrendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07872311214797738268noreply@blogger.com